Vetnuus | November 2025 43 Influential Life Coaching MISPERCEPTIONS PART 1 Dr Mats Abatzidis B.Sc. B.V.Sc. New Insights Certified VIP Life Coach mats.abatzidis@yahoo.co.za Founder of Influential Life Coaching http://www.matsaba.wix.com/drmatscoach Author of the published book “Life outside your comfort zone. Better and beyond all expectations”. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=searchalias%3Ddigital-text&field-keywords=Abatzidis http://www.life-coach-directory.co.za/mats-abatzidis Vet's Health I Life Coaching I hope this article finds you and your families well and safe!!! Last month, we looked at the currencies in each of our lives. Namely, TIME, MONEY, and KNOWLEDGE. In this instalment, I would like to raise awareness about certain misperceptions that we sometimes subscribe to, mostly because it is convenient. We all have hopes and dreams and various objectives that we want to achieve in our individual lives. One of the questions that will inevitably pop up in our minds when we are setting goals, and especially if they are big goals, is “Do I have what it takes?” Fundamentally, the very reason that you are thinking of that question is only because you do have what it takes. So, what I am saying is, you have the capacity already. However, the willingness to do what it takes is entirely different. Are you willing to give up certain things to get what you want? If you say you are going to get something, then your actions need to match what you are saying. The result will not just come to us just because we have said once or twice – we need to be saying it and acting it consistently, until it is done. It must be locked in our spirit, our speech, and our actions all the way. People tend to have this idea or mistaken belief that some of us refer to as “the fallacy of the perfect pick”, which tells us that we will get this one opportunity, one shot, one podcast, one trade, that will take us all the way to our success. What is more important for us to do instead is to keep looking for opportunities and having multiple attempts at success, even calculated risks, consistently over time and building towards your success. Waiting to begin or waiting for that amazing opportunity to appear in front of us, never got anybody anywhere! Do the daily routine that will move you towards your goal! You are an adult now, nobody is making you waste time on Facebook scrolling, nobody is making you sleep too much and waste time! We must take ownership of our time, our lives, and our days! Once you have identified your biggest problem in your life, what do you do about it? A lot of people feel entitled to be emotional and complain about it. Do you cry about it? Do you mope around everywhere you go about it? Do you drink about it? Do you get angry and get into fights about it? Do you just hang around and wait for it to go away? Do you take drugs about it? We are all human, and life will knock us down repeatedly, whether we like it or not. The difference is in our approach to the problem. All emotions can be used constructively without us dwelling in them and falling into depression and helplessness. We need to express our emotion initially, then use it to move on towards the challenge and our goals (what else are you going to do with that emotion? You might as well let it help you on your way to achieving your goals). We are always going to face problems in life. Try and accomplish something hard – in the end, we will either win or lose, but we will be better than we were at the beginning of that journey, 100% guaranteed! There is a moment when every one of us realises that nobody is coming to save us. That is when we become adults, and sadly, some people never get to that point. Change happens when the pain of staying in the same place or situation becomes greater than the pain of making a change. Nobody is coming to make your business better. Nobody is going to get you to be a better salesman. Nobody is coming to change your life for you. Nobody is going to get your project done. Nobody is coming to make your marriage better. It has always been up to you! We are either all in or all out. We cannot just devote 40% and expect things to happen for us. We need to be committed all the way to what we are trying to achieve. At least then, when the result happens, we do not have to wonder whether it would have been any different if we tried harder. There are things I have committed to wholeheartedly and in every way possible and have subsequently failed at. But I am better than I was before those experiences happened. Were those experiences difficult for me – absolutely! Were there times when I wanted to give up during those experiences – absolutely! However, now that they are over, I do not have to wonder whether I could have done anything more to change the result. The experiences I had were lessons, and I have taken that knowledge forward and become a better version of myself for it! Next month, we will continue looking at more ideas for improving our quality of life and overall performance, both at work and at home. v
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