VN October 2023

Vetnuus | October 2023 2 Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. In a past independent study, it was found that veterinarians don’t value themselves. If we don’t value ourselves, then what can our expectations be that our clients will value our services? People with low self-esteem, those who don’t value themselves, are characterised by being afraid of competition and or challenges, being sarcastic, non-assertive, lacking initiative, often pessimistic about the future, indecisive, lack of self-acceptance, blaming others for their shortcomings and with low aspirations. Many of these characteristics are unfortunately commonly seen among our colleagues. People with high self-esteem are rational, realistic, flexible, creative, independent, able to manage change, willing to admit and correct mistakes,benevolent,cooperative,expressthemselvesthroughopen and honest communication, better equipped to cope and recover from hardships, ambitious, establish nourishing relationships, and involved in supporting those around them. Characteristics that we all can aspire to. Self-esteem is dynamic and multidimensional. Nobody can build it for you. You need to take charge of your own life and circumstances. You can build your self-esteem by saying stop to your own inner critic; using healthier motivational habits such as reminding yourself of the benefits of high self-esteem and refocusing on doing what YOU really like to do; taking regular self-appreciation breaks during your day; reflecting in the evening on three things for what you can appreciate of yourself; be mindful of doing the right thing in all circumstances; replace your drive for perfectionism with reality striving to go for good enough. Buying into myths of perfection will not only hurt you but the people in your life as well. Handle mistakes and failures more positively by being your own best friend and finding the upside, learning from it. Try to be kinder to clients and people, building relationships to establish a supportive network. If something doesn’t work, be innovative and try something new. Always keep in mind the whys of high self-esteem. We, as a profession, play an important role in the lives of all of those around us, from the moment they open their eyes till they put their weary heads down at night. That first cup of coffee till supper on their dinner plates. We must value ourselves and take our rightful place. We must stop being apologetic about our services. Our services play a critical role in the daily lives of humans, animals and the environment. Let us go out there and make a difference. There is a difference between being liked and being valued. A lot of people or clients may like you, but do they really value you? If they do, they will be a part of your supportive network. Be valued! v Kind regards, Paul van der Merwe From the President Dear members, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson 24-Hour, Toll-Free Helpline: 0800 21 21 21