VN April 2021

Vetnews | April 2021 25 I hope this article of my column finds you and your families well and safe!!! We are well into the year now and some of us have started working on our goals and objectives while others are stuck wishing that things would change and COVID would disappear. I have recently started a journey into understanding quantum healing so that I can help my clients using a completely different approach. One of the many concepts I have been introduced to is that of the human nature to exclude what we do not want in our lives . On the converse of that, we are also told that “everything happens for a reason”. I remember growing up and being an active little boy that would often hurt himself. Whenever I complained to my grandfather/dad, they would jokingly suggest that I cut off whatever was causing me pain. Upon reflection, we apply that same principle on a conscious and subconscious level in our daily lives. If we were to return to the concept of physically removing the painful limb/foot/finger I complained about as a child, the surgical procedure itself would create pain in itself over and above the chronic effects of no longer having that part of your body. This means that, on many levels, you are no longer whole (the concept of wholeness will be covered in a future article). The common scenario I keep witnessing in my training is that almost every problem that we are asked to assist with has a level of brokenness at its root because there is something missing . The important concept to understand here, is that everything is made up of some form of energy (including shock, trauma, death, etc.), and once created and inserted into our life, this energy cannot be taken out, removed or ignored . Our inherent nature is to disconnect from trauma and pain as much as possible because the emotional burden associated with it is too much to bear. It is an act of survival. Once we start ignoring the problem, it becomes a deep conscious or subconscious pain that can manifest in many different forms: physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. We have become so good at ignoring and burying these issues that we can pass on the effects and pain from one generation to the next ( these coping mechanisms become conditioned patterns of response and are maintained ), meaning that for the people further down the family tree, it will become a subconscious burden. These issues become a part of us, while the recipient is often not even aware that it is there as a fault in the family system. This connects us to our family as an unconscious form of love, but also serves to separate at the same time through avoidance. Although disconnection may have been lifesaving in the past, we experience it as life challenging now. As disturbing as that is, there are various healing practices and modalities that can help us raise our awareness, identify the issue and reconnect with it in the conscious space, providing us the opportunity to deal with it and heal. Even more exciting in this instance, is the opportunity to prevent that from happening or affecting individuals for generations to come. Examples trauma revealed and healed: 1. Post-traumatic stress disorder is common in men older than fifty who have served in the army and have experienced war. Sometimes a man’s issue with his wife/children/colleagues is revealed to connect to his great-grandfather’s participation in WWII. Having your squad members die around you while you survive is a burden that many cannot bear. The event was too difficult to express, therefore psychologically buried and avoided. 2. My daughter is a special-needs child and our concern as parents for her anxiety may be connected to a suicide three generations ago. That event was extremely painful, as well as considered shameful in those times, which meant that it was not to be spoken of. 3. I have seen cases where a client’s chronic illness is revealed to be connected to a grandparent’s family involvement in war. Many of the family where killed, the grandparents left their home without informing anybody for the sake of their own survival. That story was never revealed before due to shame and guilt. Never avoid your challenges and pain - face them head-on. The best way to do that is to reach out for help . Acknowledging your struggle as a part of your journey is the first act to re-establishing harmony, and a most important step to wholeness and well-being. Growingwithin the challenge always brings strength to you and your family, as challenges become valuable lessons and experience to be shared, keeping everyone connected. Unconscious love is transformed to conscious love through sharing the load, and the burden becomes the blessing . Next month, we will learn more ways to embrace the new world post COVID19, healthy and safe. v Influential Life Coaching EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON Dr Mats Abatzidis B.Sc. B.V.Sc. New Insights Certified VIP Life Coach mats.abatzidis@yahoo.co.za Founder of Influential Life Coaching http://www.matsaba.wix.com/drmatscoach Author of the published book“Life outside your comfort zone. Better and beyond all expectations”. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref =nb_sb_noss?url=search- alias%3Ddigital-text&field-keywords=Abatzidis Blog: https://drmatslifecoaching.wordpress.com/ http://www.life-coach-directory.co.za/mats-abatzidis Vet's Health I Life coaching